What do you - personally - want? |
Can you honestly – and practically – answer this?
The very first Live From the Den… was phenomenal! We had an excellent turnout and great dialogue. The night’s topic was “Expectations in Relationships” and, boy, did we dive into it!
Brothers and sisters together dealt with everything from identifying our honest/truest expectations to honing-in on and articulating how major concepts, such as “Trust,” “Honesty,” and “Commitment,” actually look on a day-to-day basis to understanding the struggle that comes when we push past the surface, and what’s socially acceptable, to acknowledge and own what matters to each of us personally. For example, when discussing the expectation of Commitment, one brother shared that – to him and his group – within the context of a romantic relationship, Commitment looked like a home-cooked meal. So, in order to feel his partner was committed, he didn't need bells and whistles. He just wanted this. For you, such may not be enough, or it may be too much to ask. Yet, that’s one of the purposes of this process: being honest about – and owning – what we as individuals with varied desires and pasts need from a partner. Not what songs say. Not what our parents or friends need. But what you and I need as an individual. This is what I refer to as our “honest” expectations.
Thursday night was just the beginning - lol! I asked people to leave and continue to do some homework about their personal and truest expectations and have been receiving some great reports! People are experiencing a-ha! moments. The amazing thing is that this type of work may begin under the guise of relationships but has a way of drastically impacting you as a person.
Whether you were with us last week or not, you can still join us in this work.
I am continuing the dialogue and want to know if you can answer the question: “What do YOU need in a relationship?” You don’t have to comment with specifics, but I am asking you to share what you learn about your expectations and uncover about yourself in the process of answering this question. For example, if you’ve always insisted that TRUST is a major expectation for you, share how it would look for you in a relationship. Talk back!
PT